Sha’Kara Alise Hayes

August 19, 2009

scan0004Sha’Kara Hayes, 16, of Columbia, died Sunday August 16, 2009 at Children’s Hospital. Funeral Services will be held at 11:00 AM Friday at Progressive Baptist Church. Burial in Memorial Park Cemetery. There will be no visitation.

 Sha’Kara was born August 21, 1992 in Columbia the daughter of Shelia Johnson and Jeffery Hayes. She was a student at Hickman High School. She was a member of the Progressive Baptist Church.

 Survivors include her mother and father, five brothers, Patrick Hunt and Jordan Elam both of Columbia, Jayden Hayes, Sa’Von Hayes and Blair Hayes all of Kansas City, Mo., one step-brother Jay Murray of Columbia, two sisters Demetria Waller and Dilisha Waller both of Columbia, grandparents Allean Johnson and Janice Hayes both of Columbia.

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  1. Elizabeth Gunier on August 19th, 2009 1:46 pm

    My heart breaks for her family. My hope is for peace and comfort to her loved ones. I will miss her as you all will and I am so proud to have been her nurse for the last 4 years. What a privilege to have known such a beautiful and brilliant young lady. Thank you for allowing me to care for her.

  2. Barbara Gordon on August 19th, 2009 1:54 pm

    To : The Johnson/Hayes Families

    God promises to comfort us in time of despair.and in that time we could lean on him for peace and strength. You are in our prayers.

    The Gordons’ Barbara and Jeff(Breez)

  3. Mr. and Mrs. Jerry and Toni Westbrooks on August 19th, 2009 2:57 pm

    We watched her grow up into a beautiful young lady. She was a joy to know and a blessing to those who came into contact with her. Our prayers go out to your family; we walked the same path as parents of two children with Sickle Cell. We fought the same fights, cried the same tears, and worried and feared together yet found joy in the smallest things. Most people take their children for granted, we tried not to.

    I witness a mother’s love for her children during our frequent stays at the hospital together. I know the way you cared for her and the way she loved you for it. She can run now, and swim now, and be in the sun now – without pain or suffering.

    You made her life on earth the best a mother could give and you did it well. I witnessed that, so understand this, the gift God gave you was your children and you did a masterful job in raising her. She will be missed and forever remembered.

    Love,

    Toni, Jerry, Laya and Jade Westbrooks

  4. Anjelicca Conner on August 19th, 2009 7:21 pm

    I didnt know her that well but we had small conversations in summer school and she seemed like a very nice and fun person to be around.My prays go out to her family.

  5. Dortha Eubanks on August 19th, 2009 7:35 pm

    Dear Shelia,

    I was so sorry to hear of your daughter’s death. We have been praying for her and was hoping for her recovery. You and your family are in our prayers. Is there a place that we can send a memorial fund to? If not, I will send a gift to Coyote Hill Children’s Home in her memory.

    Dortha Eubanks, Prayer Chain Participant.
    Memorial Baptist Church

  6. Candy W on August 19th, 2009 8:10 pm

    Jeffrey, I’m so sorry to hear about the loss of your daughter. As your former neighbor, I know how much you and Shelia went through with Sha’Kara’s illness. May God bless you all in this time of need and just know she is at peace in Gods hands.

    My prayers are with you all

  7. Patricia Blueitt on August 19th, 2009 8:59 pm

    To: The Johnson/Hayes Families

    Take hold of the memories you have made together and keep them close…may the strength of FAITH, may the joy of HOPE, and may the warmth of LOVE bring you PEACE in your time of sorrow.

  8. Angela McPike on August 19th, 2009 9:07 pm

    Sha’Kara was a beautiful girl and will be missed by all. Sheila, I am praying for peace for you and your family. You have been such a source of strength and love and compassion for so many. My heart aches for your loss. May you have moments of peace and remembrance that bring healing into your heart. Praying for your family. God Bless.

  9. Shawn Owens000000000000 on August 19th, 2009 9:07 pm

    Sheila,
    I just wanted to let you know that you and your family are in my thoughts and prayers as well as her friends. May you friend peace during this difficult time of loss and reflection. I am glad that I got the chance to meet her. May the memories of Shakara soothe your heart. I once read “when you look up in the sky, don’t think of them as stars, think of them as lights, welcoming your loved one safely home”.

  10. Jen Crosswhite on August 19th, 2009 10:09 pm

    I had the privilege of teaching both Sha’Kara and her little brother, Patrick. My heart goes out to the entire family. You all are in my prayers.

  11. Tina Rice (Hern) on August 19th, 2009 11:57 pm

    To both of the families

    My heart goes out to each one of you at this time you will also be in my prayers and may god bless each and everyone of you

  12. shelia Johnson on August 20th, 2009 1:15 am

    I would like to thank everyone who has written, called, sent a card, prayed, or even thought of my family and I. All I need to say is that God does things for a reason and God is good. He has blessed me and my family over and over, and he is not going to stop. I believe my daughter is in a better place and there is no more pain for her. She enjoyed life to the extreme and she brought alot of joy and cheer to everyone that knew her. She certainly had an old soul and taught me and all my friends so much that it’s unbelievable! God has her now and she is at peace.. Thanks for everyone’s prayers and sympathy, but remember she’s in a better place than we all are.

  13. Dana Sleeth on August 20th, 2009 3:01 am

    I was Sha’Kara’s 9th grade math teacher. Her smile could light up the room! I am so very sorry for your loss.

  14. Ella Nevels-Blackwell on August 20th, 2009 11:35 am

    To: Sheila Johnson and Jeffery Hayes
    From: Ella (Tincey) Nevels-Blackwell

    I would like to send my condolence to your family’s
    Sheila and Jeffery , I was thinking about the last time I saw your daughter she was about four years old. Sheila It sounds like she turned out to be a beautiful young lady. Sha”Kara is resting in GOD’s arms now.

    The act of creating a memorial for one who has passed away is an act of spirituality. A memorial tells the world that this person may be gone but his or her spirit lives on. A memorial makes a statement that this individual will forever be tied together in the circle of life. A memorial is a statement that this person’s life mattered and continues to matter. The acts of goodness and courage will never be forgotten. A memorial is a way to remember a loved one forever.

  15. Atonja Rush (Hoffman) Toni on August 20th, 2009 1:29 pm

    To the Johnson and Hayes family on behalf of my family Hoffman/Rush I would like to say: No one truly comprehends the loss that you feel, the sadness that you must be going through….And yet, the warm thoughts are reaching out in hopes that you will find the strength and comfort to get you through this difficult time…….. Shelia and Jeffrey our thoughts and prayers are with you and your entire family.

  16. Regan W. on August 20th, 2009 1:57 pm

    My heart & prayer goes out to the Hayes/Johnson family. May the Glory of God, bless & stregthen each one of you. God Bless you.

  17. Arthur and DeAnna Trass on August 20th, 2009 2:36 pm

    To Sheila Johnson and Jeffery Hayes:

    Love and prayers to you and your family. Our hearts go out to you for your loss. May your hearts be supported by the love from God, family and friends.

  18. Jennifer Cheatum on August 20th, 2009 2:39 pm

    ” A Job Well done”

    You have done a beautiful job of taking care of the precious gift given to you, so i said to you and family well done.

    A silent tear I weep but my heart is joyful knowing she is in Jesus arms. Sha’kara You blessed me with your smile and embrace me with your spirit for the short I knew you. i will always smile and laugh at the time watching you taking care of the “baby doll” showing all the love in the world as you was shown by your mother and family. We will miss you.

    to the family may you find comfort and peace. Hebrew 13 3
    -8.

  19. Michelle Rolley (Aidin and Airin) on August 20th, 2009 2:40 pm

    Although I didn’t know Sha’Kara well, she was always a presence at Orangemen games/events. She was friendly, had a smile that made you want to smile and could hold her own against any of the Orangemen boys when they tried to mess with her. She was a beautiful young lady who will be missed. I will continue to pray for Shelia, Taye, DJ and the rest of the family, hoping that as the days go by, your hearts will start to mend, you’ll remember all the good times you had with her and realize that even though she may be gone, she will never be forgotten. Her work on Earth was done and God wanted her home.

  20. Kris (Cox) Estes on August 20th, 2009 3:27 pm

    Peace, prayers and blessings to all of you! I just saw this in the paper and my heart goes out to you! She was a strong young lady that fought to the finish! I know I am not around anymore, but I still care about all you and hope you find strength in prayer, family and friends to get through this hard time.
    Love,
    Kris

  21. Sharon Viles on August 20th, 2009 3:29 pm

    Dear Sheila and Patrick,
    I am so sorry to hear of your loss. I will always remember Sha’Kara as a beautiful young lady with a sweet smile. When years ago at Mill Creek, she use to come by the classroom to meet Patrick after school. I know you will miss her a great deal.

  22. Lucrezia Perry on August 20th, 2009 5:53 pm

    Sheila,
    My thoughts and prayers go out to you and your family. My nephew Shawntez was in the 4th grade with her. God is good and what a blessing it is to go back to god on the day he gave her to you! Amen!

  23. Monique & Clinton Prince & Family on August 20th, 2009 6:06 pm

    Shelia,

    I remember the day Sha’Kara graced us with her presence in this world….thank you so much for letting me be a part of that mircle. My thoughts & prayers go out to you and the family. Please know you can count on me for anything. Sha’Kara was such a beautiful young lady and will be missed. She is now pain free and playing in heaven with her papaw and so many others who loved her under gods loving arms.

    Love,

    Monique

  24. cheree on August 20th, 2009 6:15 pm

    you may be gone but always rememdered. you will always be in our hearts. we love you baby girl.

  25. Monique Prince & Family on August 20th, 2009 7:18 pm

    Shelia,

    I remember when Sha’Kara graced us with her presence in this world. Thank you so much for letting me be a part of that mircle. My prayers & thoughts go out to you and your family. If you need anything, please let me know.

    Sha’Kara is no longer in pain and is playing in heaven with her papaw and other loved ones under Gods arms.

    Blessings,
    Monique

  26. Jackie and Thomas Lee on August 20th, 2009 8:08 pm

    Sheila,

    I am so sorry to hear of your loss. I can’t say I know how you feel because I have not loss one of my children, but I am praying that you will continue to praise the Lord, and you know that he will be there for you. Your daughter doesn’t have to suffer anymore, and just think that she is god’s chosen one, because she is just 16, and she’s going to be in heaven singing and praising, and there’s no hate, she’s surrounded with loving people.

    I love you. (smile)

    God Bless,

    Jackie & Thomas Lee

  27. Bessie Hern on August 20th, 2009 8:39 pm

    Idid not this young lady but ido know her parents.And Ijust want you know that God Kows best And you can always call on him because he is there for you . Jeffery I did not know who you were until i read that Janice is your mother.We are related I am Tina Tonja And Gus Mother. Just keep you hands in Gods hand and he will ease the pain of your loss. My prayers are with you and your families.

  28. Dana & Kids on August 20th, 2009 9:09 pm

    Shelia, we will miss Sha’Kara’s “beautiful” face. I will always hold on to the great memories of her, Des, and Patrick riding through the neighborhood on those darn motor bikes, laughing and running folks off the road while haveing the time of their lives. Keep God close and he will “continue” to give you strenght to pull through these difficult days. God bless you and your family.

    Sha’Kara be sweet!

    Love always,
    the Cooper family

  29. Kimberly Kemp on August 20th, 2009 9:27 pm

    Shelia,

    I am very sorry to hear of your loss. My thoughts and prayers are with you.

  30. Rachel Cotton on August 20th, 2009 10:03 pm

    My heart goes out to Sheila and Jeffery Hayes… My sister is her cousin..and i have seen and talked to Sha’Kara quite a few times when she came to pick my sister Kelsey Up.. I didnt know that she was sick until not long ago.. i am soo sorry Sheila and Jeffery my heart goes out to u all.. best wishes and i give you my condelenses… she was a verrry respected and loving girl she had a smile that went for miles.. *tears* i sure am gonna miss that smile.. its sad..but shes no longer in the pain shes been in..god had better plans for this beautiful girl..once again.. i give u my sympathy and hope that everything will get alil better :(

  31. Mildred D. Robertson on August 20th, 2009 10:26 pm

    Sheila, Allean:

    I am sorry that I cannot be there, but my prayers are with you. Sheila, I know how hard it is to let your baby go. But she is now resting in the arms of Jesus. I was thinking about you and Sha’Kara and wrote this poem. I hope it gives you comfort:

    Sleeping in God’s Bosom

    I’m just asleep, I am not gone.
    My suffering lasted much too long,
    Our Father heard my hurt and pain.
    And then decided to call my name.
    Now I dance before His throne,
    I’m in His bosom, I am not gone.

    For Sha’Kara Hayes
    August 21, 2009

  32. Jana (Johnson) Alderton on August 21st, 2009 5:53 am

    Dear Shelia,

    I was reading the Tribune today online and was completely shocked when I reached the obituaries. The rest of this afternoon I have spent remembering the time I got to spend with Sha’kara. We haven’t seen each other in well over 5 years, but I remember her in vivid detail and all the of the fun we had together. She was such an awesome kid, I wish I had gotten to see her grow into a young woman. I’m so sorry you lost your little girl.

    Love,
    “Ms.” Jana

    p.s. Even though Patrick won’t remember me, please give him a big hug from me.

  33. Rosalyn Collinsworth & Family on August 21st, 2009 1:38 pm

    To Shelia and the entire Johnson & Hayes Family;
    To my best friend,
    I watched you, have and raise Sha’Kara thru these years. I watched as you were strong for her everytime she was in the hospital- always with privacy and dignity. No one really ever knew the extent of what Sha’Kara went thru but you as her mother. You are an exceptional mother Shelia. Take comfort in knowing that you did all you could for her- not only when she was sick- but always. I will never forget how her little sassy smile lit up a room and I will cherish the last times I spent with her in November. She cracked us up all weekend. She was a happy child- that was because of you. I love you with all my heart Shelia and although we cannot be there physically- you know we will be there in spirit. Sha’Kara was an awesome young lady- job well done! God bless and keep you all.

    Love Always,
    Rosalyn, Derek, Kiara, CharLess, ChrisJhane’, TyLer & Derek II

  34. Nakia Matthews on August 21st, 2009 3:31 pm

    Sheila and Jeffery,

    Sorry about your loss, our thoughts and prayers are with you.

    Nakia and Kyla Matthews

  35. Holly Weltha Lange Middle School on August 21st, 2009 5:51 pm

    I am so sorry for your loss. Sha’Kara was a beautiful young lady both inside and out. It was a privilege to play a role in her education. God Bess you and your family.

  36. osa onaghise on August 21st, 2009 6:10 pm

    my heart goes out to sheila and her family during this difficult time i pray that the good lord gives them the strength to go through this tough loss. the lord giveth and taketh i know she is in a better place. may God bless your family.

  37. Rosalyn Collinsworth on August 21st, 2009 6:14 pm

    Our deepest and heartfelt sympathy go out to The Johnson/Hayes Families…
    To my best friend…
    We were friends before we both had our girls…and I watched you raise Sha’kara. I saw the things you went thru when she was sick- you and she both dealing with her illness with great privacy and dignity. No one really knew your struggles. You are an exceptional mother Shelia, take comfort in knowing you did all you could for Sha’Kara, not only when she was sick, but as a mother for the last 16 years. She is at rest now- no more pain. I can still remember how her little sassy smile brightened the room. I will cherish the time we got to spend with you guys in November. Although we could not be there- you know I am there in spirit. We love you guys!!!

    Rosalyn, Derek, Kiara, CharLess, ChrisJhane’, TyLer & Derek II

  38. Paulette Nealy and Quon'Taireyah Miles on August 21st, 2009 6:46 pm

    To the Johnson/Hayes family

    May God Be Near You…We are asking God to keep you in his arms so he can hug you when you are feeling sad and missing your daughter.

  39. Jasmine B on August 22nd, 2009 2:48 am

    Sha’Kara Was Such A Wonderful Person. She Will Be Remembered And Loved Forever. She Was A Great Friend And It Breaks My Heart That She Is Gone So I Cant Imagine How You All Must Feel. I Love Her Very Much And I Am So Sorry That She Is Gone. Of All People, She Did Not Deserve To Pass! She Had Such A Great Spirit.
    My Prayers And Thoughts Go Out To You And All Of Your Family.

  40. Vanessa Perry on August 22nd, 2009 5:05 pm

    It was a blessing to take care of Sha’Kara for the last 4 years. She was a beautiful young lady who could always make me smile. My heart and prayers go out to your family. She is in a better place where she doesn’t have to suffer anymore.

    Love, Nurse Vanessa

  41. La'Tia Floyd on August 22nd, 2009 6:03 pm

    Sha’Kara was my best friend. We might have let high school get in the way of our relationship but i want her,Ms. Shelia, and everyone else to know that i love her so much that words can’t even explain. I will never find another friend like her. I am so thankful that i at least have these memories left of the days we did share. I would love to spend one more day with her and just have fun and not worry about anyone or anything. When you were with her she was so carefree, you would think that nothings wrong. She made you feel so happy, now i look back on all those memories and i feel so grateful that i had been apart of her life. I love you forever & always,
    rest in peace.
    My heart goes out to you Ms. Shelia
    La’Tia Floyd

  42. Tieresa Mitchell & Tiara Dameron on August 28th, 2009 2:22 pm

    Our hearts goes out to the family, sorry for your loss and you will be in our prayers

  43. Ida Hatton on August 30th, 2009 5:41 pm

    Sheila you are such an inspiration.
    I admire the mother that you are, and hope that I can be half of that. May God Bless you and your family as you continue through this difficult time.

  44. Natisha Brunston on September 14th, 2009 1:27 pm

    i give all my blessins to the hayes family I knew Sha’Kara Since 6th grade and it was really hard on me i wish the family lost of luck and looks like god has a new angel in his kingdom
    R.i.P Sha’Kara love u wit all my heart

  45. Alena Wasson on October 13th, 2009 4:13 pm

    I met Sha’Kara in second semester in our biology class in 10th grade and we became fast friends. She would always yell my name from down the hallway and it would make me smile :] We talked all the time in class and always got scolded for it but it was one of my favorite classes because of her. I’ve been in denial about it for the past couple months but now it makes me cry to see her picture on this page and me knowing she’s not going to scream my name down the hall again. I love her and miss her and I give her family the best of wishes.

    Love you girly <3

    Love,
    Allee

  46. Dalisha&Demetria on October 15th, 2009 2:52 am

    This is for you baby sister,

    We remember when you were born and me and demetria would fight over who would do your hair and of course she would win that time but when it came to holding you I would carry you around like you were a baby doll and then when you started to walk and run real good oh! we really had fun I remember us rideing you around on are bikes and you would fall sometimes and I would get in big trouble for that but you would get back up tell grandma you was okay and climb back on….. that’s what we were praying for this time but god had other plans. We just want you to know that it’s hard being without you and that we never stop thinking about you. you are one in a million and can not be replaced WE LOVE YOU BABY SISTER!!!!!!!!

  47. Toneisha R. on February 4th, 2010 3:35 pm

    I know it’s been 5 months since Sha’Kara passed. But it still hurts. I really miss her. She made my life full of joy and smiles. I miss those times we could hang together and be the best of friends. She has and will always have a special place in my heart. Nobody can replace the friendship that we had. I miss and love her very much. And as the days go on; there’s not one day that i don’t think about why this happend to her. So love her and her family always and forever.
    – Toneisha R.

  48. nicole ramey on April 15th, 2010 7:32 pm

    that was my BEST Friend!! I Will always love you. no matter how far apart we are!!!!-love your bff colie =(

  49. shonda on January 2nd, 2012 3:28 pm

    I miss and love my cuzzin skoo much

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